"I'm going to be a mother. There's a precious little life growing inside me. How amazing." As soon as the good news has sunk in, the first and foremost thought that hits us is finding a good gynecologist. This is by no means an easy task and I request you, please do not take it lightly. In fact exercise utmost care and make sure you have done your due diligence before you decide to settle for someone. For, this is going to be a journey of 9 long months and it ain't easy.
Based on my personal experience I feel these 5 points are imperative in choosing the right gynec
1) As most of us are covered by insurance these days, we tend to go to hospitals specialising in birthing or other multi speciality hospitals. I personally prefer a hospital specialising in birthing as it would definitely have all the requisite facilities under one roof. It is imperative that the neo natal unit is in the hospital itself. I've known of friends who had to go through nightmares after the baby was born and required neo natal care but due to lack of such a unit in the hospital, the newborn had to be shifted to another hospital. You definitely do not want to get into such hassles right after you have delivered. Often the choice of gynec is guided by the hospital you choose. Both are important. So make sure the gynec you choose delivers babies in the hospital of your choice. Even if he/she does not practice there, hospitals might be willing to permit them to deliver.
2) Reputation of the gynec which you could check with your friends, office colleagues, neighbours. Online reviews are another good source. However these might be biased as well so one would need to exercise judgement here. A personal visit to the gynec should clear your doubts.
3) How comfortable are you with the gynec? Is he/she someone with whom you can share your innermost concerns, your fears, your queries however silly or trivial them may seem? It is very important to have that comfort level with the gynec as it is not just about 1-2 visits, its not even about an illness, its about a human life which is so precious to you. You will need your gynec's support the most during your delivery. This will make you more confident of a smooth delivery.
On a personal note, for me this factor was of utmost importance. I always needed to be able to look at my gynec as not just a doctor but someone more closer with whom I could share about my hopes and fears and ask the silliest of questions without having to give it a second thought. I also found great comfort when I went into labour and I saw her in the labour room.(A special note of thank you to Dr Manjula Raghuveer @Cloudnine, Malleswaram(Bangalore).
4) How accessible is your gynec? Can you text, whatsapp, email or call them whenever you have any questions? Do they respond in a timely manner? This again is critical as you could be experiencing something that your are uncomfortable with(such as baby is not kicking for a long time or kicking too much), this might worry you. The best person who could put all your fears to rest is none other than your gynec.
5) For any reason if you are not happy with the gynec you chose, please do not hesitate to change the gynec without further delay. DO not fear that this change will cause confusion, spoil relations, what if you are not satisfied with the other gynec as well? After all what's most important is you are content with your choice.
These nine months are a wonderful journey in itself, relish every moment as your tiny foetus transforms into a beautiful baby, the wait seems so long I know it! You just can't wait to catch that first glimpse of your little one, wishing you good luck as you experience this amazing phase.
Now let me confess- I am really NOT someone who loves watching
daily soaps. I know reading the tile you thought- what the heck, if it’s a
daily soap on TV it is bound to be stereotypical, full of nonsense and drama
and if you watch such stuff why complain, and if complain why watch? There was a
time when I was in college, all naive, and this was when internet was all about
going to the cyber cafe and getting all excited about entering the chat room
and typing asl (age ,sex ,location) and talking to strangers. At that time, the
only source of entertainment for young people like me was the idiot box so I won’t
lie- I used to watch the Ekta Kapoor soaps and probably even like that at that
point, that’s why I use the word Naive. As I grew up, met
diverse set of people, read and experienced new cultures, my thought process
changed. With a hectic job, I hardly found time for any TV watching. My Mom who
is also a working woman used to watch a few Marathi soaps. She always told me
Bhagwan you speak English with your daughter? What is happening these days?
People want to show off and are forgetting their roots”. I have heard this many times. Earlier my
reaction used to be - apologetic. I would keep quiet and try to ignore the comment
and find an escape route. But now if someone dares to talk to me about this
matter, I snap them off then and there. I am unapologetic I don't think I have
done anything wrong which I need to feel ashamed about. So yes I do speak in
English at home and this is my first language. No qualms about it. And
it's not because of an inter caste marriage in fact I have been speaking
English as a first language right since childhood. To give you some background
on how this came to be. My mother’s parents belonged to Mangalore ( it's a
coastal town in Karnataka) they migrated to Bombay in search of a livelihood
when they were young. They married, had kids and their kids were brought up by
a maid. As my mom and her brother lived…
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this one seal (or the lack of it). But for Aesha , her tumultuous mind couldn't
be tamed today. While she was at
the cusp of an important milestone in her career and getting the visa would
mean she inches one step closer to her dream professionally- somewhere she
shuddered to think of how it would impact her love life and the very foundation
of her marriage. It seemed like
yesterday- Aman and Aesha met at a sangeet and got talking. They hit it
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