My daughter- bully or Braveheart?
A
short story .
I
put the receiver down and took a deep breath. The call had come like a gloomy
cloud and dampened my spirits. What had Amyra done now? I kept fidgeting and
biting my nails. The cup of tea lay cold on the table, it failed to entice me
any longer.
I
had just got a call from my 12 year old daughter Amyra's school chief
coordinator. She asked me to come and meet her as soon as I could. I couldn't
believe what I heard from her about my daughter. She had slapped, scratched and
sprayed deodorant in the eyes of 2 boys who were her classmates. One of them
was admitted to the hospital now and his parents were threatening to file a
case against the school and the unruly girl who did this. I couldn't believe
that was my daughter. Well she wasn't the quiet meek types in fact she was
opinionated and would always stand up for her rights. That's how I had raised
her and I was proud of her.
I had left my job when she was born so that I
could focus on raising her. It was a decision I made without any qualms as I
wanted to be an integral part of her growing years and give her the gift of my
undivided time. Now that she was a big girl and her days were more or less
occupied with school, extra classes and her hobbies I had decided to rejoin the
work force. She was the one who encouraged me to get back to work. “Ja Simran
jee le apni zindagi",she said laughingly quoting the famous dialogue
from our all time favorite movie DDLJ.
My
husband and his family were skeptical though "why do you want to work now?
This is the critical stage where you need to keep a watch over Amyra- who knows
what she would be distracted towards? But I had made up my mind. I started working.
And now this call had come which made me rethink my decision of joining back.
Had I taken a wrong step? Had my daughter strayed and I had failed to notice?
Calm
down I told myself, think rationally. I had not heard her side of the story
yet. I had to give her a fair chance. Once I was back from office, I found her
engrossed in her book. She looked forlorn and her eyes were downcast. I braced
myself "hey baby lets go to Corner House for some ice cream I said. I am
longing for one”. She looked surprised. I pulled her hand and dragged her to
the parlor.
Once
we were seated I asked her how her day was and what's up in school? Is there
anything she would like to tell me? She looked down; I held her hand and told
her about the call. Is it true? She looked out of the window and told me "
Mumma remember when that Delhi rape happened, that girl they call Nirbhaya and
everyone was so scared , they would not allow any girls out of sight , and I
was terrified too. At that time you told me “we never know what life will dole
out but remember one thing, learn to stand up for yourself. Any small incident
be it eve teasing, someone trying to touch you in an inappropriate way or
passing some lewd comment do not be silent for it will only encourage them to
do more. Create a commotion, take action and send a clear and loud message that
this will not be tolerated.”
Yes
darling I remember this I said, my mind going back to those days and how
despite my fear for her well being and safety, I had put up a brave face
and given her a strong message.
“A
couple of boys in our class have been passing comments on us since few days,
they wait for us in a gang before school starts and after school gets over and
sing cheap songs, whistle and catcall. The other day as Sheeba , Reena and I
were walking back home, they hit a stone aimed at Reena's butt and started
laughing loudly. I was fuming with anger but kept quiet. The next day one of
them held my skirt and I couldn't take it any longer, I screamed and slapped
him hard. The other guys tried to overpower me; at that moment I quickly
reached for my bag, pulled out the deodorant and sprayed it in their eyes. As
soon as they started howling in pain. I ran away. Mumma I did this in self defense.
Isn't this what you taught me? Learn to stand up for yourself and don't
tolerate nonsense. I would have raised my voice when they hit Reena but those 2
girls dragged me away. I kept asking myself this question the whole night
"why was I quiet when something wrong happened right before my eyes?"
I couldn't sleep a wink but I slept well since past 2 nights Mumma. Tell me did
I do something wrong? Should I instead have kept quiet and silently borne the
injustice dished out to me? Would that make you proud?
I was tight lipped. And slowly a smile spread
across my face I gave a bear hug to her- “girl to girl” one which has always
been our ritual. I was proud of my little baby. I was confident of facing not
just the principal, the boy's parents but the whole world as well for I knew my
child had done the right thing. Amidst the giggles and mouth full of chocolate
sauce and vanilla ice cream, I was still trying to figure out when did she grow
up so fast?
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