Can I have it all? Demystifying this and much more with Women in Business
#IWD2017
was remarkable will forever be etched as a special day in my mind for numerous
reasons.
To start with it was
heartwarming to see one of my blog posts which is very close to my heart do
fabulously for the 3rd time. Though it’s not a new one, sharing this on
multiple platforms has always evoked such a heartwarming response. This time it
was on the eve of International Women's Day and the topic was something we
Indian women always grapple with- and hence I always say this -NO - Getting
married is not a woman's biggest achievement. There is much more to life than “settling
down” as we call it (for reasons I fail to fathom). Why not celebrate her
dreams, her aspirations? You can read the post here.
The other big
highlight of the day was a Panel Discussion with some really strong, veteran, women
leaders in business. This was a part of Women's Day Celebrations by our very
own Women's Network at UBS- something that is very close to my heart and I love
working with.
The eminent panelists
were- Vaishali Kasture- partner at Deloitte, Taru Mateti, Head of Documentation
& E-learning at Cybage, Anukriti Sharma who leads Compliance and Legal in
UBS India and Shao May, Head of Facilities, UBS India.
Women who have truly
shattered the glass ceiling- is not something you get to see every other day. I
have always been in awe of Vaishali who was a Managing Director at Goldman
Sachs. I have heard her talk and what I love and admire about this woman is -
her no nonsense, real, straight from the heart- without a need to sugar coat or
sound politically correct style of talking. The best part is it is real- you
hear her and you instantly know it strikes a chord with you. You identify
yourself in those talks and she breaks the myths associated with being
successful needs you to do x ,y ,z with such ease and aplomb that you can’t
fail to be besotted by her.
Some of the takeaways
of this candid fireside chat - as a woman in business are:
Can I have it all?
Indra Nooyi created quite a storm when she said that she doesn't think women
can have it all. I have always been plagued by this question. I got a totally
new perspective today when Vaishali gave a completely different take on this-
it was almost like doing a somersault! She said “your all is very subjective.
My all is very different from your all. My all revolves around 3 things - my
work, my passion - running marathons and my family. As long as I am happy with
the time and effort I devote to them I think I have it all. I definitely think
I have it all”.
This came as a whole
new perspective to all of us young women seated there. Doesn't it all begin
with - first defining your all? If you aspire to do well in your job, be a
devoted mother who is with your child 24*7, be a good wife, DIL, keep the
relatives and neighbors’ happy, socialize, actively indulge in your hobbies and
excel at it - well certainly you are going to have a hazy version of “have it
all”. You can't do everything and you can't be liked by everyone.
You need to choose and
choose wisely and then live by your choices. It's never easy but who said life
would be a cakewalk? And that too for a woman?
It was heartwarming to
hear about Taru who took a career break after her daughter was born and resumed
work when her daughter was in 7th standard. It wasn't easy, the timings were
crazy but she hung on knowing well that she had to move out but not without
learning the tricks of the trade and having that experience on her CV. A
lesson in career comeback!
Another important one
for career women that Vaishali shared was about “networking”. We all know this
is something, the importance of which cannot be undermined in today's corporate
world if you want to succeed. But for most women including me it's an Achilles
heel. As a mom if you ask me - would you like to come over for drinks tonight,
I would rather prefer the comfort of my home with my toddler in tow. It was
quite surprising to hear from Vaishali that she networks but not quite a lot. After
all networking is arbitrary exchange of information as she puts it.
Before you go to that
party know those 5 people you have decided to speak with today and make your
mark felt. You don't need to spend 5 hours there, you can do it in one hour and
walk away. Networking is about give and take. When you talk to someone
senior make sure you “give” more. Talk about something you are working on which
would be of interest to that person - something as an FYI which he can take
back with him or which can open up the ground for further talks. Talking about
random things would make the conversation awkward after a while and no one
remembers such random conversations and random people.
Have the elevator pitch ready at all times!
What would you say if you met the CEO of UBS in the elevator? Would you waste
those few precious minutes or use it optimally to make your mark?
The panel discussion
and networking event where I got an opportunity to talk to Vaishali, Taru and
others upfront (and the take on networking was a result of this personal
conversation) was an eventful one. Though I have enjoyed such events being a
mute spectator in the past and always shied away from asking that question that
I so badly wanted to ask and the networking event was mostly restricted to
eating cookies and making small talk - taking one step forward by raising your
hand to ask that question least bothered about what people will think and being
bold to go talk to a partner or a senior leader and ask them that back
stage question or tell them about something you are doing which would be of
interest to them – Yes! That can have a significant impact.
Women's Day ended on a kick-ass note and look forward to a year of new milestones and new
challenges.
Defining the all has actually helped me do a lot .I really dont want to be stuck for hours somewhere ,doing meaningless small talk.But if its 1 hour of networking !I am all for it.I actually love social.But I hate being bored!Great post
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